I love talking with people, and through our conversation, I always learn something new, and find that my appreciation deepens for the understanding I’ve gained about our true nature.
A dear client, Olivia, recently asked me, during our Zoom call, what was my favorite way of getting quiet. She mentioned that she was on holiday, however, she wasn’t finding the joy she expected.
This is how Olivia put it, “Even though I’m on holiday and having a good time, I see a big difference between that and getting quiet, and finding peace of mind. I’m longing for a sense of stillness. How do you find quiet, Elsie?”
For starters, I was touched by Olivia’s honesty. This told me she was coming from her true nature, even if she wasn’t sure of the answer. Olivia knew enough to know that the holiday feeling wasn’t quite what she was looking for, at this particular time. I suspect that the challenging time of the global pandemic was partly why she was internally yearning for a quieter state of mind than she was feeling on her holiday, which was filled with fun things to see and do.
As I reflected on her question, it occurred to me that I do nothing to get “quiet.” At this moment in time, I love to sit on my patio, sometimes with Ken, and sometimes on my own. I listen to nature, the whisper of the trees in the background, the sound of hummingbirds’ wings speeding by me to the feeder, and I smell the intoxicating fragrance of the honeysuckle vine, see the bunny running across the back yard, pausing to view me, then skipping along to hide under the patio deck. Deadheading the flowers on the patio is another favorite thing to do without thinking I must “do.”
I remember a retreat I gave that my dear friend had attended. Olivia is a busy, successful coach, and I could see her visibly relax at the retreat. At the end of the event, which was held in a beautiful, rural area, she decided to stay on by herself. As she told me this, her face was radiant with health and understanding. She told me she’d never before given herself time to just “be.” She expressed how elated she was that this simple opportunity appeared as a gift to her.
On our call, I reminded Olivia of that time. “I remember how meaningful this gift of “time off” was for you. You’d never given yourself this gift before. I suggest you consider doing this again. This doesn’t mean going to the countryside again, or going anywhere. Getting quiet isn’t about going somewhere or doing something. It’s simply about “being” in our true nature, which allows us to enjoy the form of nature surrounding us, where ever we may be. Often times we miss the beauty of where we are, thinking we must go on holiday somewhere else.”
Olivia’s face lit up as she listened intently. “That feels so right, Elsie. Thank you. I feel more peaceful already. I didn’t realize that I could find that feeling of peace right where I am. However, as you spoke, it brought back times when I have felt so content, just enjoying being at home, cooking up a gourmet meal just for me, or going for walks with my dog, Bella. I see now that I took that feeling for granted. I guess I was wanting more bells and whistles to my “quiet”. . . .”
Finding quiet, peace of mind, and contentment is so simple because it’s already part of our true nature; it’s inside of us. To me, this is one of the benefits of “staying at home” during the pandemic. Learning there is nothing to do, nowhere to go, to find peace and joy. I invite you to just “be” and experience the inner nature of quiet.